Building Character Through Self-Esteem

Before people start to consider how self worth plays a key role in the development of personal character, many have forgotten that building character through self esteem is indeed one of the most important aspects of personality development. Through healthy self esteem and realistic goals with spiritual purpose, great virtues are potentially developed. Virtues such as embodying the spirits of purity, kindness, patience, diligence, discipline, generosity of which brings great harmony in one's life, filling it with great peace and joy.

As much as many people may not want to admit it, a stronger inner core foundation can be established with how a person builds character, especially when self worth is a primary factor in shaping and molding the values and virtues of a balanced individual. Without a strong core self developed with healthy self esteem, personal goals and spiritual goals are directly impacted leaving one feeling confused about their life circumstances.

How is it so?

Self-esteem is the value of a person’s worth and there are a lot of factors that come into play, especially in helping a person fell more confident about himself, which is also a primary factor in establishing a person’s outlook towards personal inspiration and feeling as a success. On the spiritual ascension pathway, recognizing the importance of character building as a necessary part of having self love and self acceptance is critical to progress through self deception blocks. When we have low self esteem our psychological defense mechanisms will act to block our progress moving forward and evolving in life. 

One who understands they are a loved and worthy spiritual vessel for the spirit of God Source, will begin to learn that self love is at the core of self acceptance which is the quality one must build to truly feel and experience God's love for all of us. Once we feel love for ourselves we build inner confidence which further builds our trust with life. 

A person who is more confident about himself, the more focused and determined the person is to aim for achieving a better state in life, regardless of whether it be for career, success, spiritual purpose, inspiration, family or personal goals. A peaceful and fulfilling life is most possible when one seeks inner truth and self knowledge while building a relationship with God and the relationship to the self.  When building a relationship with the self it may mean we are taken through character building life experiences we do not prefer. We must push through our fears in order to experience the accomplishment of moving past our perceived mental limitations. If our mental limitations and/or self entitlement govern our actions, we will become stunted in our growth and fall into low self esteem. 

To better understand and define self–esteem, it is simply holding oneself in high regard as a result of many factors that determine a person’s worth. It is easy to remember you are loved unconditionally by God source and to meditate with the intention to flow the grace of unconditional love to your own heart to feel self love. With self love one can build self esteem. 

Self- esteem does not require regarding oneself's behaviors as always perfect nor does it demand from a person to be faultless or blameless, rather, valuing the self as priceless, worthy and unique.

This is what makes a person feel confident and good about himself or what makes them keep their head held high in the face of tribulation or adversity and this quality can be considered a measure of a persons degree of response to life’s circumstances, be it good or bad. With healthy self esteem one responds to life challenges without blame or spreading negativity. 

Self- esteem can also align to help a person make better choices, especially when it comes to personal character development, improved learning and coping skills with life which attracts and manifests abundance. Self esteem improves mental and emotional clarity. 

Self- esteem in one's personality starts at birth, through parenting, environmental and other factors, and as a person’s consciousness develops and takes shape into adulthood, this is when a person starts to measure himself as to his own value and belief system around self worth.

It then shapes how a person looks at himself and compares or assesses himself with the environment or his surroundings and starts to ask himself, do people like me and accept me for being me? Do other people regard me as an example or inspiration for others? How do other people look at me? What is my attitude and behavior towards life? Am I a deserving and worthy person to be loved, appreciated to experience abundance?

These are but some of the common social questions that help a human being understand in the earlier growth stages which build his gauge to measure his value and worth as a person. It is clear the current (anti-human) social systems in place are not cultivating large amounts of happy, well adjusted, healthy adults with self esteem,  that are contributing to society in positive ways.  Positive human development is based on healthy self worth and self esteem. This is a gift we must learn to give to ourselves, especially if we were the victims of great abuse and childhood trauma. 

People with low self–esteem are usually those who often do not regard themselves highly than they should or are simply those who do not want to risk making sacrifices for the betterment of their own personalities and character.

Having healthy self–esteem is having the ability to make solid positive choices in the face of challenges and one is less likely to follow a spur of the moment or recklessly made decision without thinking-feeling things through.

There is less likelihood that someone with a good solid sense of self–esteem makes reckless decisions that could lead to his own distress and downfall. When we have healthy self esteem we are able to have better clarity and this supports us in making better decisions, taking into account the overall value of our own personal feelings, safety, health and well- being.

A lot of people may tend to ignore or neglect what usually is some of the best measurements of achieving balanced success in ones life with a persistent ambition to explore the inner being, discovering how personality, outlook, belief systems and attitudes affect their course in life.

Building strong character traits through cultivating healthy self–esteem is as equally important as the process of spiritual development. All aspects of one's state of being, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually are negatively impacted and stunted without having acquired a strong foundation for moral character and healthy self-esteem. 

(Adapted source partially from Building Self Esteem)